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T O P I C R E V I E WScorpieScorpHi,OK, I'm getting older, haven't had a significant relationship since 2008---and now I am freaking out I'm never going to meet someone.And I'm out there, on the dating apps, I even threw a singles party this last week.I'm attractive (at least I think so)...not sure what is going on. It used to be so easy, men were falling all over me.Can someone tell me what to look for in my chart that indicates marriage will happen to me?I'd appreciate any knowledge you can share!!fireopal09(((ScorpieScorp)))Do not panic. Why the rush to get married and how old are you? Are you having baby fever? Post your chart. I married the wrong person at the age of 31 and divorced at 36. I let an old boyfriend back into my life at 36 and we've been together 8 years.My guy is in my natal chart; all lovely in 9th house and Jupiter aspects. ------------------Claire"When going gets weird, the weird turn pro."-HSTSandra018is Saturn going to make a nice aspect to you Venus any time soon?thats a typical sign in my humble experience..is you Venus afficted natally?there are others as well...On a personal note, i just wanted to reach out and say i have been there!! you are not alone, and it will get better.arcturus90Maybe when the ruler of the 7th house is in aspect to the Sun or maybe the Moon... Or Moon or Sun in aspect to Jupiter... I'm talking about transits of course... Then in your natal chart I don't know Kannon McAfeeEveryone has multiple windows of opportunity for this. Astrology isn't particularly constrictive that way. As far as timing goes, it is far better to understand the astrological influences you are currently in for assisting your growth at this time. But I'll look for/into your chart to see some timing ...BTW I wasn't married until I was 41, so no need to panic. I was able to reverse engineer your birth chart from previous charts you posted in the Interpersonal forum and you've had a slow moving progression of Pluto contra-parallel natal Venus that has been active for you since around 1983 and is still active. It is moving back to exact over the next several years. This outlines a window of opportunity that should be viewed with great caution and times powerful feelings of attraction/affection, but contains challenges of keeping such strong feelings in perspective and in balance. You also currently have prog N.Node closely semi-sextile natal Uranus. That is pretty significant if Uranus is the ruler of your DC as it is supposed to be. It indicates that you may be in a window of opportunity for meeting someone now, since the prog Nodes (and natal ones) can indicate timing of meeting significant persons.I know Jupiter already transited over your natal Venus, but it is now conjunct your natal Sun & Uranus, so stay alert and expect something good to happen even if it is not directly related to relationships. A relocation opportunity can sometimes be the break that changes things. That's how it was for me anyway (during a Jupiter to Uranus transit). Three weeks after coming to Oregon I met Heather.Just understand with this active Pluto to Venus progression things can go from cold/nothing to the opposite. A definite window of opportunity opens up for you in late 2019 to 2020 when you have a Venus progression contra-parallel natal Jupiter added to the previously mentioned Pluto to Venus aspect.------------------Soul Stars Astrology - by the declinations guyExpert birth chart rectificationAries23DegreesWhen panic sets in, all reasoning falls by the wayside and mistakes/regrets happen. So be careful.Where is Mars? Does it aspect Venus/Moon? Or on the 7th?Lalafortunaea quote:Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:When panic sets in, all reasoning falls by the wayside and mistakes/regrets happen. So be careful.Yes, I agree with this. Listen to Aries up here. If it comes from a place of urgency, fear, panic, you'll end up doing everything for the wrong reasons, and this can actual REPEL opportunity for good relationships. People can unconsciously smell/sense the desperation and will make you energetically incompatible with a harmonious relationship.Meeting the "right" person will work itself out passively. Just follow your passion, your mission, how ever small, and that will make the universe help you meet the right people. Remember, marriage isn't a race and there's no set time everyone should do it. If you try to force something it could end up being all wrong. So, find ways to chill, focus on what you like, cultivate skills and passions of yours, and then the right person will come along because you'll have reached a place inside where you attract good things due to being content.ScorpieScorpThank you for all the replies!! Hugs!Firepal, yes, I worry about having time to have a baby..I just turned 40...I don't get why it's just not happening for me.Here's my chart and the aspects...I used combined one so that you could see the whole picture. Natal, Progressed and Transits: arcturus90Oh all right, Saturn Leo conjunct ascendant. Leo is "love". Saturn delays. And conjunct the ascendant... I don't know, but that's maybe why. And if you really want a love life, maybe you'll find one. Sometimes women who never get married and never had children and never really wanted to be in a relationship, never find this in their life. And if you really want to know you could just ask to a good psychic... ScorpieScorp quote:Originally posted by arcturus90:Oh all right, Saturn Leo conjunct ascendant. Leo is "love". Saturn delays. And conjunct the ascendant... I don't know, but that's maybe why. And if you really want a love life, maybe you'll find one. Sometimes women who never get married and never had children and never really wanted to be in a relationship, never find this in their life. And if you really want to know you could just ask to a good psychic... Every psychic has told me I will meet the one, will not get a divorce, will have children. Even my Purple Star Report says I have some of the best stars for marriage, that I'm blessed to have a beautiful marriage...so?Kannon McAfeeTiming is everything and patience holds the desire.------------------Soul Stars Astrology - by the declinations guyExpert birth chart rectificationScorpieScorp quote:Originally posted by Kannon McAfee:Timing is everything and patience holds the desire.Hi hope you are right Kannon, and thanks for looking into my chart, you are always so through. Uranus is the ruler of my DC so it's interesting that NN will be in contact with Uranus in my progressed chart.I have been told by one Vedic astrologer that I'd have a late marriage...I thought he said 41, but that's just 1 year away.....I'd want to be in a relationship for a good period of time before marriage just to make sure. Speaking of Uranus, I thought when trUranus was over my Venus that something would have happened...Again, what aspects/transits indicate the timing of marriage...or even when you will meet someone special?Kannon McAfeeThere's no set rule on this. Don't try to figure it out. Just see the windows of opportunity in front of you.Uranus has been Rx. It can still go direct into tighter opposition to your natal Venus. That transit is not over yet. ------------------Soul Stars Astrology - by the declinations guyExpert birth chart rectificationhypatia238I got married when tr Jupiter was conjuncting my Juno exact. That is one window. I met my husband when tr saturn was conjunct exact my Valentine and his northnode, I remember I wanted to settle down. Tr saturn was also conjuncting my venus and his venus by 4-5 degrees when we met. Cappi112Take your time and do a lot of your own internal spiritual work and you will be in line to meet the right person.I was in a hurry and met a guy I thought was my soul mate during a Venus Conjunct Neptune transit. I was confused the entire relationship but was positive somehow that we were meant to be. I found out he had been cheating a good portion of the time when it was all over 2 years later. Venus and Neptune were separating out and I remember feeling like the fog was literally lifting. It was crazy.I met my current SO at the same exact time, decided NOT to rush things (we had been friends awhile before then), and we just got engaged a couple weeks ago. I knew from pretty early on that he was the one even though I felt unready for him. Since we started dating, I have felt married to him, I have had no questions, (well, had a lot in the beginning but mostly because I was traumatised from person A), and I've never felt worried about time or age or anything. It has just flowed, naturally. He is going to be nearly 40 by the time we get married, I will be 34. I never had a feeling of "I need to be married by ___ time in my life" and I regret none of the guys before him - and I definitely saw it all in the stars.the night we got engaged Juno was conjunct my Sun and Jupiter and my north node was in my 7th house. Venus and Jupiter were transiting my 9th house (he and I met in a foreign country, he is from Belgium and I am from the US, and we are both living in Holland. He also proposed to me while we were on a trip in Barcelona). the moon was conjunct my AC.Aries23DegreesSaturn sextile VenusSaturn square MercuryMars square UranusSaturn conj AscVenus contra parallel PlutoProgressed Sun is about to move to the 5thProgressed Moon in Aries.Often Saturn conjunct Asc would suggest someone who has a "closed off" body language. Other people are often formal in their approach to them because they often give the air of indifference to anything and everything that is not serious in essence. Like joking around with them seems awkward.Venus sextile Saturn . A tendency to restrain oneself when it comes to social life/things pleasurable. You may have your defenses up and miss social cues.And with the added Mercury square Saturn, small talk is tough. Often when you are quiet or reserved in saying something, other people are discouraged to keep the convo going on.The ruler of the 7th is Uranus. And the square from Mars suggests that you are protective of your freedom. You can assert your independence and refuse to compromise who you are. So relating to someone would mean them having to accept you " as is"The good news is that progressed Moon in Aries. And this often ushers new beginnings and taking chances. You are likely to be more risk seeking and this means opening yourself up to new experiences.The progressed Sun moving to the 5th also contributes to this need to experiment. What would help things is learning to improve certain social skills so that you have a more "open" energy1. Smile a lot more.2. Laugh a lot more.3. Flirt and learn to receive compliments4. Accept invites to partys or host them5.. Let your hair down more(literally).6. Dress to feel good7.Initiate conversations/tell jokesOften times we do things unbeknownst to us that keep people away. Transits cannot change the person . But they do provide a point of flexibility that allows for opportunities.Learn to relax and have fun. You don't have to find "the one" right now. And i believe that its the combo of Saturn aspects and Venus contra parallel Pluti that has you look at mating as such a serious and maybe intimidating affair.Just learn to be open to people,mix it up and have non commital fun. It will happen.MelinnWell virgo asc and that capri 5th house. Dunno if w can blame on that, but yeah. I have virgo asc as well. Saturn in 4th. Capricorn 5th hose. Have been single my whole life. I feel you<3Turned 30 last year. In my case I don't want children at all, and thats one of the reasons I have hard time finding a man. There is almost no men who does not want kids and will feel happy and content with marriage only.ScorpieScorp quote:Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:Saturn sextile VenusSaturn square MercuryMars square UranusSaturn conj AscVenus contra parallel PlutoProgressed Sun is about to move to the 5thProgressed Moon in Aries.Often Saturn conjunct Asc would suggest someone who has a "closed off" body language. Other people are often formal in their approach to them because they often give the air of indifference to anything and everything that is not serious in essence. Like joking around with them seems awkward.Venus sextile Saturn . A tendency to restrain oneself when it comes to social life/things pleasurable. You may have your defenses up and miss social cues.And with the added Mercury square Saturn, small talk is tough. Often when you are quiet or reserved in saying something, other people are discouraged to keep the convo going on.The ruler of the 7th is Uranus. And the square from Mars suggests that you are protective of your freedom. You can assert your independence and refuse to compromise who you are. So relating to someone would mean them having to accept you " as is"The good news is that progressed Moon in Aries. And this often ushers new beginnings and taking chances. You are likely to be more risk seeking and this means opening yourself up to new experiences.The progressed Sun moving to the 5th also contributes to this need to experiment. What would help things is learning to improve certain social skills so that you have a more "open" energy1. Smile a lot more.2. Laugh a lot more.3. Flirt and learn to receive compliments4. Accept invites to partys or host them5.. Let your hair down more(literally).6. Dress to feel good7.Initiate conversations/tell jokesOften times we do things unbeknownst to us that keep people away. Transits cannot change the person . But they do provide a point of flexibility that allows for opportunities.Learn to relax and have fun. You don't have to find "the one" right now. And i believe that its the combo of Saturn aspects and Venus contra parallel Pluti that has you look at mating as such a serious and maybe intimidating affair.Just learn to be open to people,mix it up and have non commital fun. It will happen.Thanks Aries! So, it's true, my Saturn makes me serious looking.But 1-2 drinks in, or around people I'm comfortable with, my Libra Moon, Pluto, Venus comes and I can be the life of the party.I am also smiley...and have won Flirting contests back in my heydays believe it or not.I don't think I lack social skills, and as a Scorpio, I am always swimming in the deep waters of my soul and spirit and working on myself.I don't think there's anything wrong with me...perhaps I'm a little more cautious than when I was younger and partying it up all over town (was still a good girl!), I just am no longer interested in bars and clubs anymore.Plus, dating now has changed...it's all about dating apps, which I'm not a fan of at all. I like being excited about going on a date vs wondering if it will end in 30 mins or 2 hrs.Aries23DegreesLike you I feel the same.But i feel like if i keep doing the same stuff, date the same "types". I can't expect anything different.Not to put oneself in danger or go for weirdos. But look at what it is that I am doing to have people say "no thanks" or limit my options etc.These things I have noted;I can be stuck upI can judge people immediatelyI can be "polite" but standoffishI can shutdown when others flirtI do have a "list"I do stick to a "type"I can be a control freak I can be rigid. And I do think there is more "wrong" with other's out there than looking at myself. Because its just easier to do that than looking in the mirror.For example I had gone out one time and this one guy was hitting on me a lot. So my friend said "go for it". And I quickly listed reasons as to why it wouldn't work. The number 1 reason was his bad grammar My friend kept on saying "He seems like a nice guy" and I said "He is dumb". And then he said "and what a bod huh?" which I responded with "He is dumb". When eventually my friend said "you are not asking for his hand in marriage. You are merely opening a door to a possibility....." And that made me think.I think Saturn often expects permanence and some predictability. I was scared to admit that on a gut level, I found the guy very attractive.But was scared that he was not the "type" I could predict successfully. Or can control the relations to where I wanted them to go (like with exes). I was scared of just "going with the flow".Another example was when I met someone whom I positively liked at a colleagues house. But noticed that the guy was not giving me any hints of interest.He was seemingly attached to someone else and flirtatious with most except me. But the attraction to him grew e exponentially. And then I realized that there perhaps is a part of me that enjoys going after what's not available. Because I can always say "well i tried. But he was not interested" etc.In the 1st instance a really attractive guy-even more so physically than the second- had the balls to openly make his feelings known with me. And i closed him off citing the "dumb" defense.In the 2nd instance, someone who didn't really give me any signals nor showed an inkling of attraction, I was drawn to. At no point did I converse with him to measure the "dumb" scale. But was willing to jump right in. And he didn't know I existed.I think we often get into a rut of our own making which if not consciously aware, can compromise our ability to mingle and have some hopefullsI have Venus-Saturn conjunct and so I understand your reservations with this new dating trend. But I also know that most people are like me and looking to find someone. So we are all amateurs at this and its okay.The apps we go to serve as an available medium/ channel for the shy and confident alike. And not necessarily a statement of their character, morals or personality.Many times I have judged people for posting pictures of their bodies online as "vain". But realistically speaking, a lot more people respond to eye candy than talking about Plato.But these people(many in actuality) do this to attract as much people as they can and then sift through the responses to narrow down those most sincere. I think you should get out there just do it.
OK, I'm getting older, haven't had a significant relationship since 2008---and now I am freaking out I'm never going to meet someone.
And I'm out there, on the dating apps, I even threw a singles party this last week.
I'm attractive (at least I think so)...not sure what is going on. It used to be so easy, men were falling all over me.
Can someone tell me what to look for in my chart that indicates marriage will happen to me?
I'd appreciate any knowledge you can share!!
Do not panic. Why the rush to get married and how old are you? Are you having baby fever? Post your chart.
I married the wrong person at the age of 31 and divorced at 36. I let an old boyfriend back into my life at 36 and we've been together 8 years.
My guy is in my natal chart; all lovely in 9th house and Jupiter aspects.
------------------Claire"When going gets weird, the weird turn pro."-HST
is you Venus afficted natally?
there are others as well...
On a personal note, i just wanted to reach out and say i have been there!! you are not alone, and it will get better.
As far as timing goes, it is far better to understand the astrological influences you are currently in for assisting your growth at this time. But I'll look for/into your chart to see some timing ...
BTW I wasn't married until I was 41, so no need to panic.
I was able to reverse engineer your birth chart from previous charts you posted in the Interpersonal forum and you've had a slow moving progression of Pluto contra-parallel natal Venus that has been active for you since around 1983 and is still active. It is moving back to exact over the next several years. This outlines a window of opportunity that should be viewed with great caution and times powerful feelings of attraction/affection, but contains challenges of keeping such strong feelings in perspective and in balance.
You also currently have prog N.Node closely semi-sextile natal Uranus. That is pretty significant if Uranus is the ruler of your DC as it is supposed to be. It indicates that you may be in a window of opportunity for meeting someone now, since the prog Nodes (and natal ones) can indicate timing of meeting significant persons.
I know Jupiter already transited over your natal Venus, but it is now conjunct your natal Sun & Uranus, so stay alert and expect something good to happen even if it is not directly related to relationships. A relocation opportunity can sometimes be the break that changes things. That's how it was for me anyway (during a Jupiter to Uranus transit). Three weeks after coming to Oregon I met Heather.
Just understand with this active Pluto to Venus progression things can go from cold/nothing to the opposite. A definite window of opportunity opens up for you in late 2019 to 2020 when you have a Venus progression contra-parallel natal Jupiter added to the previously mentioned Pluto to Venus aspect.
------------------Soul Stars Astrology - by the declinations guyExpert birth chart rectification
Where is Mars? Does it aspect Venus/Moon? Or on the 7th?
quote:Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:When panic sets in, all reasoning falls by the wayside and mistakes/regrets happen. So be careful.
Yes, I agree with this. Listen to Aries up here. If it comes from a place of urgency, fear, panic, you'll end up doing everything for the wrong reasons, and this can actual REPEL opportunity for good relationships. People can unconsciously smell/sense the desperation and will make you energetically incompatible with a harmonious relationship.
Meeting the "right" person will work itself out passively. Just follow your passion, your mission, how ever small, and that will make the universe help you meet the right people. Remember, marriage isn't a race and there's no set time everyone should do it. If you try to force something it could end up being all wrong. So, find ways to chill, focus on what you like, cultivate skills and passions of yours, and then the right person will come along because you'll have reached a place inside where you attract good things due to being content.
Firepal, yes, I worry about having time to have a baby..I just turned 40...I don't get why it's just not happening for me.
Here's my chart and the aspects...I used combined one so that you could see the whole picture.
Natal, Progressed and Transits:
quote:Originally posted by arcturus90:Oh all right, Saturn Leo conjunct ascendant. Leo is "love". Saturn delays. And conjunct the ascendant... I don't know, but that's maybe why. And if you really want a love life, maybe you'll find one. Sometimes women who never get married and never had children and never really wanted to be in a relationship, never find this in their life. And if you really want to know you could just ask to a good psychic...
Every psychic has told me I will meet the one, will not get a divorce, will have children. Even my Purple Star Report says I have some of the best stars for marriage, that I'm blessed to have a beautiful marriage...so?
quote:Originally posted by Kannon McAfee:Timing is everything and patience holds the desire.
Hi hope you are right Kannon, and thanks for looking into my chart, you are always so through. Uranus is the ruler of my DC so it's interesting that NN will be in contact with Uranus in my progressed chart.
I have been told by one Vedic astrologer that I'd have a late marriage...I thought he said 41, but that's just 1 year away.....I'd want to be in a relationship for a good period of time before marriage just to make sure.
Speaking of Uranus, I thought when trUranus was over my Venus that something would have happened...
Again, what aspects/transits indicate the timing of marriage...or even when you will meet someone special?
Uranus has been Rx. It can still go direct into tighter opposition to your natal Venus. That transit is not over yet.
I was in a hurry and met a guy I thought was my soul mate during a Venus Conjunct Neptune transit. I was confused the entire relationship but was positive somehow that we were meant to be. I found out he had been cheating a good portion of the time when it was all over 2 years later. Venus and Neptune were separating out and I remember feeling like the fog was literally lifting. It was crazy.
I met my current SO at the same exact time, decided NOT to rush things (we had been friends awhile before then), and we just got engaged a couple weeks ago. I knew from pretty early on that he was the one even though I felt unready for him. Since we started dating, I have felt married to him, I have had no questions, (well, had a lot in the beginning but mostly because I was traumatised from person A), and I've never felt worried about time or age or anything. It has just flowed, naturally.
He is going to be nearly 40 by the time we get married, I will be 34. I never had a feeling of "I need to be married by ___ time in my life" and I regret none of the guys before him - and I definitely saw it all in the stars.
the night we got engaged Juno was conjunct my Sun and Jupiter and my north node was in my 7th house. Venus and Jupiter were transiting my 9th house (he and I met in a foreign country, he is from Belgium and I am from the US, and we are both living in Holland. He also proposed to me while we were on a trip in Barcelona). the moon was conjunct my AC.
Progressed Sun is about to move to the 5thProgressed Moon in Aries.
Often Saturn conjunct Asc would suggest someone who has a "closed off" body language. Other people are often formal in their approach to them because they often give the air of indifference to anything and everything that is not serious in essence. Like joking around with them seems awkward.
Venus sextile Saturn . A tendency to restrain oneself when it comes to social life/things pleasurable. You may have your defenses up and miss social cues.
And with the added Mercury square Saturn, small talk is tough. Often when you are quiet or reserved in saying something, other people are discouraged to keep the convo going on.
The ruler of the 7th is Uranus. And the square from Mars suggests that you are protective of your freedom. You can assert your independence and refuse to compromise who you are. So relating to someone would mean them having to accept you " as is"
The good news is that progressed Moon in Aries. And this often ushers new beginnings and taking chances. You are likely to be more risk seeking and this means opening yourself up to new experiences.
The progressed Sun moving to the 5th also contributes to this need to experiment.
What would help things is learning to improve certain social skills so that you have a more "open" energy
1. Smile a lot more.2. Laugh a lot more.3. Flirt and learn to receive compliments4. Accept invites to partys or host them5.. Let your hair down more(literally).6. Dress to feel good7.Initiate conversations/tell jokes
Often times we do things unbeknownst to us that keep people away. Transits cannot change the person . But they do provide a point of flexibility that allows for opportunities.
Learn to relax and have fun. You don't have to find "the one" right now. And i believe that its the combo of Saturn aspects and Venus contra parallel Pluti that has you look at mating as such a serious and maybe intimidating affair.
Just learn to be open to people,mix it up and have non commital fun. It will happen.
Turned 30 last year. In my case I don't want children at all, and thats one of the reasons I have hard time finding a man. There is almost no men who does not want kids and will feel happy and content with marriage only.
quote:Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:Saturn sextile VenusSaturn square MercuryMars square UranusSaturn conj AscVenus contra parallel PlutoProgressed Sun is about to move to the 5thProgressed Moon in Aries.Often Saturn conjunct Asc would suggest someone who has a "closed off" body language. Other people are often formal in their approach to them because they often give the air of indifference to anything and everything that is not serious in essence. Like joking around with them seems awkward.Venus sextile Saturn . A tendency to restrain oneself when it comes to social life/things pleasurable. You may have your defenses up and miss social cues.And with the added Mercury square Saturn, small talk is tough. Often when you are quiet or reserved in saying something, other people are discouraged to keep the convo going on.The ruler of the 7th is Uranus. And the square from Mars suggests that you are protective of your freedom. You can assert your independence and refuse to compromise who you are. So relating to someone would mean them having to accept you " as is"The good news is that progressed Moon in Aries. And this often ushers new beginnings and taking chances. You are likely to be more risk seeking and this means opening yourself up to new experiences.The progressed Sun moving to the 5th also contributes to this need to experiment. What would help things is learning to improve certain social skills so that you have a more "open" energy1. Smile a lot more.2. Laugh a lot more.3. Flirt and learn to receive compliments4. Accept invites to partys or host them5.. Let your hair down more(literally).6. Dress to feel good7.Initiate conversations/tell jokesOften times we do things unbeknownst to us that keep people away. Transits cannot change the person . But they do provide a point of flexibility that allows for opportunities.Learn to relax and have fun. You don't have to find "the one" right now. And i believe that its the combo of Saturn aspects and Venus contra parallel Pluti that has you look at mating as such a serious and maybe intimidating affair.Just learn to be open to people,mix it up and have non commital fun. It will happen.
Thanks Aries! So, it's true, my Saturn makes me serious looking.
But 1-2 drinks in, or around people I'm comfortable with, my Libra Moon, Pluto, Venus comes and I can be the life of the party.
I am also smiley...and have won Flirting contests back in my heydays believe it or not.
I don't think I lack social skills, and as a Scorpio, I am always swimming in the deep waters of my soul and spirit and working on myself.
I don't think there's anything wrong with me...perhaps I'm a little more cautious than when I was younger and partying it up all over town (was still a good girl!), I just am no longer interested in bars and clubs anymore.
Plus, dating now has changed...it's all about dating apps, which I'm not a fan of at all. I like being excited about going on a date vs wondering if it will end in 30 mins or 2 hrs.
But i feel like if i keep doing the same stuff, date the same "types". I can't expect anything different.
Not to put oneself in danger or go for weirdos. But look at what it is that I am doing to have people say "no thanks" or limit my options etc.
These things I have noted;
I can be stuck upI can judge people immediatelyI can be "polite" but standoffishI can shutdown when others flirtI do have a "list"I do stick to a "type"I can be a control freak I can be rigid. And I do think there is more "wrong" with other's out there than looking at myself. Because its just easier to do that than looking in the mirror.
For example I had gone out one time and this one guy was hitting on me a lot. So my friend said "go for it". And I quickly listed reasons as to why it wouldn't work. The number 1 reason was his bad grammar
My friend kept on saying "He seems like a nice guy" and I said "He is dumb". And then he said "and what a bod huh?" which I responded with "He is dumb".
When eventually my friend said "you are not asking for his hand in marriage. You are merely opening a door to a possibility....." And that made me think.
I think Saturn often expects permanence and some predictability. I was scared to admit that on a gut level, I found the guy very attractive.But was scared that he was not the "type" I could predict successfully. Or can control the relations to where I wanted them to go (like with exes). I was scared of just "going with the flow".
Another example was when I met someone whom I positively liked at a colleagues house. But noticed that the guy was not giving me any hints of interest.
He was seemingly attached to someone else and flirtatious with most except me. But the attraction to him grew e exponentially. And then I realized that there perhaps is a part of me that enjoys going after what's not available. Because I can always say "well i tried. But he was not interested" etc.
In the 1st instance a really attractive guy-even more so physically than the second- had the balls to openly make his feelings known with me. And i closed him off citing the "dumb" defense.
In the 2nd instance, someone who didn't really give me any signals nor showed an inkling of attraction, I was drawn to. At no point did I converse with him to measure the "dumb" scale. But was willing to jump right in. And he didn't know I existed.
I think we often get into a rut of our own making which if not consciously aware, can compromise our ability to mingle and have some hopefulls
I have Venus-Saturn conjunct and so I understand your reservations with this new dating trend. But I also know that most people are like me and looking to find someone. So we are all amateurs at this and its okay.
The apps we go to serve as an available medium/ channel for the shy and confident alike. And not necessarily a statement of their character, morals or personality.
Many times I have judged people for posting pictures of their bodies online as "vain". But realistically speaking, a lot more people respond to eye candy than talking about Plato.
But these people(many in actuality) do this to attract as much people as they can and then sift through the responses to narrow down those most sincere.
I think you should get out there just do it.
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